Some people are unknowingly betraying you. I’m not going to sugar-coat that fact. These people usually find themselves within your close circle of friends and acquaintances. I even dare say that you’ll find surprising things within your family. And that’s not all. They might be corroding your very intentions, goals and dreams.
Alright, I’ll admit I started this one on a negative note. So let me backtrack and explain this situation. Here you are; ambitious, dreaming, longing for a better life where you are succeeding at what you love. It all begins right there. You are at the starting line of your life. You’re young and ready to conquer the universe. “IT WILL BE MINE”, you shout. Anyone recall that feeling? Anyone feeling it right now? Sure, you know it’s going to take some work, perhaps a bit of sweat, a few tears and maybe even some blood. But you are going for gold, baby! I can tell you that most of us have probably found our purpose in life at a very young age. You can even do a fun exercise to look back at it. What is the earliest moment you remember when you were doing something and you felt fulfilled? I’ve seen people go back to the age of 5-6 years old on this. Doing your purpose will bring you fulfillment. Isn’t it so beautiful? You can be happy, don’t you see!
Here is where it gets funny, not in the “haha” way but more in the “what the hell” way. How many of you are actually doing exactly what your purpose is? The answers are often very strange. In fact, the amount of people who actually feel fulfilled in what they do is sometimes alarmingly low. Why? Isn’t it supposed to be simple? If one wants to be a mechanic, he simply goes to school to train as a mechanic, gets a job as a mechanic and eventually opens his own shop. Simple! Ha! Then you get this weird case where the guy really wants to be a mechanic. He really does! So he goes to school in accounting and becomes an accountant. Wait…what? And he’ll have all these “good reasons” why he’s not a mechanic even if he really wants to be.
So what gives? Why are you doing something other than your dream, your purpose? Let me relieve you of a burden. Its. Not. You. Now that I’ve gotten you to stop looking inward or in the mirror, I ask you to look outward towards your surroundings. Probably the biggest mistake one can do is going out and asking people their opinions on your dream. Did you ever really want to do something, so you went to see your BFF and told them your idea just to be hammered with: “watch out, it’s not easy, you might not make it, things aren’t like they used to be in this field, are you sure, nobody really makes it anyway, careers don’t last, blah blah blah…” The people in your surroundings can make or break you. I’m talking friends, close or far, acquaintances and family. They might not have bad intentions. Perhaps they do. But the important thing here is that it is YOUR life. Not theirs. The only person responsible for the outcome of your life is you. The only one who knows your life is you. The only individual who seeks to attain your dreams is YOU, dammit!
The guy who wanted to be a mechanic went to see his father and told him he wanted to be a mechanic. The father said mechanics don’t make as much as they used to and there isn’t any demand. So the little boy dropped his dreams and went for a “safer” job in accounting (accountants can still get fired or dropped, don’t see how that is safe). You see these kinds of situations everywhere in life: friends who doubt your new girlfriend, family who doubt your music, “authorities” who doubt your methods. The trick is to keep your own counsel and make your own decisions. Make your decisions first and get your activity going first. Once it’s going and there is no turning back, then you can let your surroundings know. Don’t go asking for opinions on your life. You see, some have bad intentions and would like to see you fail because they think the better you get, the less they will survive. Some have good intentions and seek to protect you but have simply given up on their own dreams and don’t believe it is possible to attain them. A select few will put no doubt, no stops, no barriers and no questions in your way and will seek to help you in any way possible with utmost enthusiasm. Those select few are those you want around you. These people will go through the damnedest, most treacherous ways to help you achieve your purpose. These people won’t even think of putting the subtlest doubt in your head. They won’t even tell you that you should probably take it slow or that you should think about it more to be sure or that green hair is probably not the colour for you. Nope. They will jump in enthusiasm! “Oh wow that’s so awesome!! GO GO GO!! How can I help”, says this person.
That is simply the truth of it. Keep your own counsel, make your own decisions. Sort through your circle of people and surround yourself with those who will not put even the subtlest, slightest doubts or stops in your way. Everybody else can watch you make it.
I expect nothing less from you than being superstars in your field.
A & R at Father & Son Records
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